That's just how women work. Community Guidelines. Expert Blog. Originally Posted by MercuryMorrison1. I had a semi falling out with a female friend not to terribly long ago, and her and I are back on speaking terms and working towards improving our relationship again. Delete Report Edit Reported Reply. Stuff would come at me from places completely beyond comprehension. Filed Under: harvard , viral. Celtic men can hold grudges for years. All Rights Reserved. Reprinted with permission from the author. IMO its not really about gender, but a reflection of how stubborn that person might be. I'll offer one 'why' and it has to do with that big ball of wire they have as a brain. I agree with the stubbornness thing, In my experience it's men hands down, but that might be because of my culture.
I never intended to hurt you and I am sorry it felt that way. User Name. This is the place! I always thought the subject of grudge holding was an interesting one. Add Thread to del. That was a marked lesson I learned from being married. What say you? Kingslayer Send a private message. Originally Posted by dreamingoftigers.
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So, I am sure you want an objective understanding to help you better understand her, right? Share Share this post on Digg Del. Add Thread to del. There is not an evolutionary benefit for women resolving conflict. All Rights Reserved. In fact it could feel as if it did just happen. Bookmark in Technorati. If, as a woman, it is difficult to have female friends, it is possible that you don't think and feel in the same way as the classic women do, so it is difficult to find synergy, platonic synergy, with other females. For the record, she needs to do her best at not projecting them onto you! AskMen on Facebook. I also know rare women who respect men but who can also be objective in their evaluation of a situation and who are not influenced by gender bias. Back To Top. The researchers say there's an evolutionary reason why men are quicker at forgiving than women. Digg del. Sign In.
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- Stuff would come at me from places completely beyond comprehension.
- I grudgex a semi falling out with a female friend not to terribly long ago, and her and I are back on speaking terms and working towards improving our relationship again.
- Is it worth it?
User Name Remember Me? I'd had experience a fallout with both guy friend Joe from my first post I wrote; if any of you don't remember you can dig it up and my now ex girl friend. In the first case, it was absolutely my fault and hurt him in one of the worst possible way but in the latter case it was over something very insignificant and I didn't even start the argument, she did. All this for nothing. I didn't even started arguing with her. The argument our lifestyles and how suddenly I get told inconsiderate. With Joe, I was forgiven 6 months later and we on speaking terms again. He told he doesn't hate him and we're on each other's facebook. At least, I have not heard of him wishing bad things nor gossiping about me to other though I did so when I hurt him. Share Share this post on Digg Del. I thought she was a good friend and now it's like she completely hates me. I don't even know what I did to her to deserve that type of extreme reaction and ill talk. Joe should be the one reacting like this but he isn't. At least he would be justify to hate me but doesn't. Because these are 2 different people with individual personalities, who don't necessarily represent their entire gender
5 Reasons Why Some Women Always Bring Up The Past And Hold Grudges
Many men I work with have very similar complaints: "Why does she always bring up history? One reoccurring theme I hear from many of my heterosexual couples is the issue with repairing past conflict. Some examples are:. So, I am sure you want an objective understanding to help you better understand her, right? Here are some common reasons why women hold grudges and keep bringing up the past:.
Why do women hold grudges. Science Proves Women Hold Grudges and Stay Angry Longer Than Men
Messages You have no messages. Notifications You have no notifications. Search Sexy foot rub Search submit button News. Type your question. The women I know will hold grudges forever and bringing up an incident Wyh happened perhaps years ago to them still feels like yesterday. Clearly it depends on the slight. If someone did something to me that was truly fked up, I eomen likely write that person off for good. What say you? Delete Report Edit Lock Reported. Respond to Kingslayer:. Respond Your response must be between 3 and characters. DoctorDoom Send a private message.
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Researchers at Harvard studied videos of sports like tennis and boxing from 44 different countries to see how men and women interacted with their opponents after a match. The researchers say there's an evolutionary reason why men are quicker at forgiving than women. Next time they need help with this study, just call me. I could've saved the university a ton of money and time. This isn't NEW news to married men.
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The simple reason why people hold grudges is because they have been wronged. But yet, there are exceptions. I have known people who hold grudges because there is someone better than them in academics, or there is someone better than them in sports and so many more. Tougher upbringings that breed mental strength tend to create people who don't hold grudges. Softer upbringings that make children feel more special and entitled like, "Everyone is a winner and you can do no wrong" tend to create sensitive people with fragile egos, a victim complex, and often the types who hold grudges even over petty things. Jun 11, · Why do Women Hold grudges or bad Memories/Emotions and Men. Holding grudges uses lots of emotional energy. And, when your emotional energy is tied up in a grudge, it holds you in the past. Grudges hold energy and it's not until you forgive that your energy can be restored. Think of forgiveness as something you do for yourself.
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